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Sabtu, 30 November 2013

Mom Tells Son: If She Wants To Have Sex, Get Her To Text ‘Yes’ First



By NewsOne Staff


Roxanne Jones, a former executive at ESPN, writes that men should get a girl to text “yes” before having sex. Is she right or is her advice too extreme? Should mothers be encouraging their sons to get a woman to text consent before they engage in sexual intercourse?
 
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Sounds extreme, but not for Roxanne Jones, a former executive at ESPN, who says such motherly advice can potentially help save her son from a false rape accusation. In an op-ed published on CNN, Jones encourages other moms to follow her lead, arguing, in part, that sex has evolved over the years to such a degree that parents “still fail to discuss sex and evolving sexual mores frankly with our sons and daughters, all this freedom has led to confusion about the ever-changing rules of engagement when it comes to sex.”

Roxanne Jones
To be sure, she makes it clear in her piece that “no” means “no” and that no woman asks to be rape. However, Jones highlights statistics from the National Institute of Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism which reveal that about 97,000 students between the ages of 18 and 24 are victims of alcohol-related sexual assault or date rape. Such circumstances further complicates the meaning of consent, Jones argues.

So, in order to remove any doubt about consent, Jones recommends the following: Never have sex with a girl unless she’s sent you a text that proves the sexual relationship is consensual beforehand. And it’s a good idea to even follow up any sexual encounter with a tasteful text message saying how you both enjoyed being with one another — even if you never plan on hooking up again.
 
Crazy, I know, but I’ve actually been encouraging my son and his friends to use sexting — minus the lewd photos — to protect themselves from being wrongly accused of rape. Because just as damning text messages and Facebook posts helped convict the high-schoolers in Steubenville of rape, technology can also be used to prove innocence.
How to protect yourself from false rape allegations is a constant conversation among professional athletes. I’ve covered many rape cases over my career, including those of Kobe Bryant, the Duke lacrosse team, and many others that never made the headlines. Sports agents and athletes have tried everything from openly or secretly recording their sexual encounters, which is illegal in some states, to asking all women they have sex with to sign a pre-consent form. And though the public may scoff at stories of athletes who frequent strip clubs or solicit prostitutes, many athletes say they do this to avoid unwarranted sex assault charges.
To be sure, Jones has plenty of critics:

Imagine a guy saying to you — "Hey, I'll sleep with you, but I need you to TEXT ME consent first." Hmmm. Read: cnn.com/2013/11/26/opi… #CNN— 

Brooke Baldwin (@BrookeBCNN) November 26, 2013
Roxanne Jones wants to invalidate the rapes of many, many people because they said yes to something that one time cnn.com/2013/11/26/opi…— 

Fiddler (@cFidd) November 26, 2013
instead of teaching your son to respect women tell him they're all whores who just want to wrongly accuse him of rape cnn.com/2013/11/26/opi…— 

Jessica Roy (@JessicaKRoy) November 26, 2013
If you ever write "Make no mistake, no woman..is asking to be raped. But…" maybe just step away from the keybord. cnn.it/1c7ilS7— 

Jake Grovum (@jgrovum) November 26, 2013
Indeed, Jones is suggesting a very unconventional way of protecting one’s self against false rape allegations, but is it extreme or is she on point?

Sound off!
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Beckham admits Manchester United teammates made him perform embarrassing sex act in front of team



He detailed the incident in the upcoming documentary ‘Class of 92.’
By Mike Foss – November 29, 2013 at 1:48pm EST
(AFP) 
International soccer star David Beckham’s professional career began with Manchester United in 1992, part of a rookie talent pool that has been unrivaled more than 20 years later. In the upcoming documentary, Class of ’92, Beckham and former United teammates Nicky Butt, Ryan Giggs, Gary Neville, Phil Neville, and Paul Scholes recount their most intimate memories from their time with the club. Metro has unveiled details the former England captain shared about the hazing he experienced at United.
‘One of mine was surprising! The Clayton Blackmore!’
Recalling his teen horror, he said: ‘Everyone had an initiation that you had to go through on the youth team, that was one of the most uncomfortable ones!’
‘The fact that I had to look at Clayton Blackmore’s calendar and do certain things, while looking at Clayton Blackmore…’
‘I mean it was embarrassing to talk about!’
Forced to recall the full scale of the horror on camera for the documentary, the 38-year-old said: ‘I was embarrassed when I was saying it on camera let alone talking about it more. But it’s something that we all had to go through. It was definitely something I wouldn’t like to go through again!’
Beckham’s story comes in the wake of Miami Dolphins lineman Jonathan Martin’s allegations that he experienced locker room hazing throughout his time with the team. Martin’s claims are currently being investigated by the NFL.
Beckham began his career with Manchester United in 1991 as a member of the youth squad. When he turned professional, United loaned him to Preston North End from 1994-95. When Beckham returned to Manchester, his career skyrocketed.  Beckham and United won six Premier League titles, two FA Cups, and a UEFA Champions League trophy.

Sabtu, 05 Oktober 2013

"Pandhegan Aja "Adigang, Adigung, Adiguna, Sapa Sira Sapa Ingsun"


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www.suaramerdeka.com Sabtu, 23 Februari 2013 | 13:10 wib - Adigang, adigung, adiguna, sapa sira sapa ingsun. Adigang adalah ’kijang’ adigung ’gajah’ dan adiguna ’ular’ ketiganya mati bersama dalam pertikaian karena kesombongan masing-masing. Pemimpin (pandhegan) yang baik menghindari sikap aji mumpung, mumpung kuwasa, tumindak nistha, seperti ungkapan Ranggawarsita dalam Serat Sabdatama.

Pimpinan jangan diserahkan kepada yang tidak mau, maupun mereka yang ambisi, karena yang berambisi umumnya memiliki motivasi lain, seperti aji mumpung. Sifat aji mumpung bertentangan dengan dharma seorang pemimpin. Ia harus rendah hati, bijak, adil dan ber budi bawa leksana. Hal itu diungkapkan oleh Ranggawarsita dalam Serat Witaradya, bahwa seorang raja yang besar, watak narendra gung binathara, mbaudhendha hanyakrawati, kutipan berikut: Dene utamaning nata, berbudi bawa laksana, lire ber budi mangkana, lila legawa ing driya, hanggung hanggeganjar saben dina, lire kang bawa laksana, hanetepi ing pangandika.

Pemimpin bangsa telah dipilih, melalui pileg dan pilpres. Siapa pun mereka pilihan bangsa. Tempat menggantungkan harapan dan masa depan yang lebih baik di bumi yang gemah ripah loh jinawi, subur kang sarwa tinandur, murah kang sarwa tinumbas, tata titi tentrem kerta raharja, dalam arti murah sandang pangan seger kuwarasan, bukan hanya slogan. Mutiara kata itu harus direalisasikan oleh mereka yang mendapatkan amanah, sebagai perwujudan lukisan negeri Amarta yang didendangkan ki dalang dalam pentas wayang. Bukan sekedar impian, dengan memanfaatkan potensi alam anugerah Allah Swt. yang membentang sepanjang khatulistiwa, dalam bentuk hutan, gunung, laut dan sungai, simpanan harta karun yang tak ternilai harganya. Semua dimanfaatkan demi kesejahteraan rakyat. Mereka harus bekerjasama saiyeg saekapraya membangun bangsa. Eksekutif, legislatif dan yudikatif memiliki tugas membangun negara dan bangsa. Sebagai pemimpin mereka memiliki tanggung jawab yang cukup berat. Kesejahteraan rakyat tidak bisa diwakilkan, tetapi direalisasikan. Bila wakil rakyat hidup sejahtera bukan berarti rakyat pun meraskannya.

Janji
Pemimpin harus memegang teguh janji yang diucapkan di depan rakyat. Janji adalah hutang, yang wajib dibayar. Sabda pandhita ratu salah satu falsafah Jawa dan konsep pengejawantahan janji adalah hutang, yang didukung frase ajining diri saka obahing lathi ajining sarira saka busana, aja waton omong nanging omonga nganggo wawaton, ilat ora ana balunge, esuk dhele sore tempe, mencla-mencle, bukan sikap seorang pemimpin, melainkan konsep sedikit bicara banyak bekerja yang sebaiknya dipegang teguh. Mereka dipercaya oleh rakyat. Mengembalikan kepercayaan yang hilang lebih sulit dari pada membangunnya. Falsafah Jawa mengatakan bahwa drajat, pangkat lan semat bisa oncat. Hal itu menjadi bahan pertimbangan bagi para pemimpin. Di dunia tidak ada yang langgeng. Semua serba sementara, bagaikan kilat menyambar sekejap tanpa bekas. Saat mejabat ia terhormat dan dipuja, pergantian tiba, ia dihujat dan dihina, kawan dan sahabat seakan tak mengenalnya. Ia dilupakan. Mengenaskan.

Masyarakat Jawa percaya bahwa wahyu kaprabon, dalam diri seorang pemimpin masih ada. Asal pemimpin masih sanggup memberikan pangayoman, maka rakyat akan loyal. Seorang pemimpin harus waspada. Sebab di antara punggawa ada yang mbalela, sengaja berkhianat demi jabatan yang diincarnya. Bagi masyarakat konsep ratu adil, wahyu dan pulung merupakan trilogi dalam demokrasi. Sedangkan trilogi yang dianut oleh kraton Mangkunagaran, melu handarbeni, wajib hangrukebi, mulat sarira munggengwani. Bahwa seorang pemimpin harus merasa memiliki, membela kebenaran dan mawas diri. Mau mengakui kasalahan pribadi tanpa menyalahkan orang lain.

(Eko Wahyu Budiyanto/CN37)

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